Every time you leave someone behind or they decide to quit on you, things don’t remain the same. There’s always a change – sometimes a major change or sometimes just a minor one which you brush off. Whether you miss these people from your life or not, they change you in a certain way and then they come back to you in pieces, years after they are gone. Some come in dreams, others come in places, a few in thoughts here and there, and many on occasions and festivals.
However, the worse mistake we make is leave something good in hopes that there is something better out there for us. And sadly, we make this mistake too often. The truth is, there is always something – someone – better out there for us. Someone who is more compatible, someone who is more beautiful, someone who would fit more into our lives. You can use all the logic in the world and calculate all the compatibilities, and you will see your perfect mate. But would that perfect mate love you? Would that perfect mate be near you? Or would that perfect mate even be available? The answer is… ‘Perhaps,’ but are you really willing to bet on that? Are you willing to set your small loving home on fire in hopes for a big mansion tomorrow which may or may not exist?
And I wish I could tell you to not make this mistakes, to learn from what I have seen. Because I know all too well that once you take that step there is no way of undoing it. But I won’t tell you because I get it – I get it that we are selfish, we want it all and the most dangerous thing we want is “More”. So I won’t tell you not to make this mistake because it is something you know in your heart or you don’t.
All I can tell you is that you will make this mistake and you will regret it.
And the most interesting thing about life is that it kicks you down, in fact it kicks you while you are down. It brutally bashes you and breaks your bones – one at a time – so that you do not miss out on the pain. Life is not a disaster, it is a slow torture. But just when you think that you cannot go on any longer, and life is convinced that you have given up, it brings you flowers and tend to your wounds and helps you get up on your feet only to knock you down some other time.
At the end of it all, it is such a humbling experience.