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Watch out! Wedding Ahead..

On that day, a lot of emotions engulfs the hearts
Happiness and tears sharing its equal parts
On that day, a new relationship is born
On that day, a swarm of people come flocking to meet
On that day, huddles of gifts and wishes are piled to greet
On that day, sparkling colours and grandeur permeates a lot
On that day, tasty delicacies  adhere to what the  taste buds sought
Sherwanis, Lehangas, Mundu and Silk Sarees
Adams and Eves look best to the T
Conversations, Chuckles, Chit chat and lasting talks
Excitement and Entertainment brimming in the scene
On that day, musical instruments compete for its attention
Moving Palanquins making proud of its creation
On that day, all eyes are on the hero and the heroine
On that day, she exhibits an added flavour of feminity
On that day, he showing the macho latent in him
On that day, the knot witnesses its inherent beauty
On that day, the guy and the girl enter into wedlock.

There is a wedding in my house in the coming few days. I have seen my family run here and there to save up the money to spend for the wedding. Everyone is looking into the minutest of minutest details and figuring out the money, people etc. My aunt, the mother of the groom has a pen on her ear from morning to evening to jot down names of people she has forgotten to invite! My uncle carries a huge black bag to carry the money for the expense of the wedding that he is afraid might get stolen if he keeps it at home! I mean why this hullabulla? Isn’t the family supposed to be at peace when a wedding is fixed! No wonder, event managers and wedding planners are multiplying!

Here are a couple of points that I have jotted during weddings:

  • Exorbitant rates of Marriage halls running into time cost in lakhs ( I have plans of investing in one looking at the number of halls available in the city)
  • Decorations all over the place leaving no wall at home go unnoticed
  • And if you are from the South of the continent, god help you with the GOLD!
  • Expensive clothes that takes up half the time for making wedding arrangements. Sarees for all occasions for all “close” relatives and shirts for their better halves as well!
  • Foot wear of brides having sparkling gold plated accessories costing more than 10k( YOu cannot even wear it outside once the day is over)
  • Gifts of acknowledgements for members attending the occassion!
  • Food!! Night before the wedding is oNLY meant to eat,eat and drink! This is one event that teaches us national integrity because you will have dishes from different parts of the country!
  • Number of dishes directly proportional to the number of dustbins to carry wastages — Not referring to used plates , used dishes getting wasted.
  • To top everything, there are relatives that come only to stay at a hotel. To match the status of the family, accomodation has to be arrabged at the best hotel in town. So relatives get an excuse to come for the wedding and stay in a nice hotel, free of cost! I have seen a relative stay at the hotel and not attend the wedding! Stay for free, food for free, what wedding??Come on people, get a life!!

Just for that day, should the spend go beyond the wallet ?should investments be diluted ?should to-be -more appreciated lands be sold ?should loans join in to be a perennial family member? and should finally should the family liability sheet need to increase ?

For people who need not do any of the above actions , should there still be arequirement of expensive wedddings ?

Cannot the money be spent in a more useful manner ? No I am not philanthropic but neither do I believe in spending money for the wrong reasons.

Now if you ask me, wouldn’t my wedding be the same way? That’s a post for tomorrow..



There is a deep and cosmological connection between my birth, my parent's decision to name me what they did, my profession and my education. This brings me to the conclusion that fate is predetermined and like in Hindu mythology, is written by Brahma when someone is born. Example: My name is unique. I did my grads in Psychology. I then did my masters in HR (offshoot of following all the psychos). I then did the ultimate decision of joining an MNC in ............. beat it, BUSINESS DEVELOPMENT. So, I have the concept 'MAD' in my name, my education, my choice of career and all the milestone decisions of my life. Now, is it predetermined or what ? :-D

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