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Love Bits-7

They walked side by side, barely touching. Each lost in their own convoluted worlds. Ironically, every thought that flitted through the trapped corners of their minds had one common focal point – the other. As the path they chose seemed to peter out right in front of their eyes, swept left, right and centre by the storm that was ravaging their lives, they were left in its wake helplessly wondering how they even happened on this particular path, that too together.

Brought together by society, bound together by fate, they wondered if love would ever grace their union.

Unknown to them, Love had already intertwined their lives together, at the same time. Their hands just needed to inch a little closer. Their hearts, a little more giving. They need to learn to weather it together, to accept the other’s support. The perfect ending, already deigned in the minds of higher beings, is them finding the boat of togetherness and the oars of companionship.

To part ways in the middle of the storm was not what was written for them, for they have tasted what it feels like, known what it could be like. And neither would ever feel or be complete without the other ever again.

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After the happily ever after

Life definitely doesn’t end after marriage. The way people act when you are unmarried , its like getting married is THE last thing and life is done! Ofcourse not. There is life after happily ever after. Getting married, especially the arranged way, is easy. Boy meet girl and they vow to stay together for the rest of their life. Both families achieve a mutual understanding, luxurious gifts exchanged,friends invited and relatives join hands to celebrate the union of two strange people who will eventually fall in love. But what happens next is something  not everyone talks about. As soon as the “Just Married’ sign leaves along with the car, the world goes back to its routine and carry on with their own lives.
Let’s face it. Times have changed. Staying in marriage is difficult. What happens in the small two bedrooms apartment is beyond your imagination. You find yourself constantly tolerating each other’s fault. Maybe first few days the frequently left open toilet lid were unnoticed,but soon or later it might be the reason why he decided to stay in couch some nights. You start to doubt the taste bud of your other half. Why one earth is he listening to that crap music? Whats wrong with her,can she make something that tastes better? You getting fatter. You need to keep your mouth shut. Why am I the one only doing laundries and cooking today? Stop playing games all the time!Quit your job. Get a life. You are crossing your boundaries.You dont know your limits.And You have forgotten our first meeting anniversaries and so on!
There’s also those times where he does the dishes while you cook knowing that you work and you would get tired too.The times when she’d do the shopping by herself so that they can spend some more time together. He gets out earlier, compromising his sleep and she works an extra hour every day so that they can travel together. The times when he’d wake up and make her coffee because she has one of those lazy to wake up-five more minute sleep days. When she bakes him brownies after a hard day at work so that he feels good. And the times when he makes her watch The Big Bang Theory and she keep his eyes open while watching Grey’s Anatomy!
A lot of people are getting married at younger age these days. I’m not denying that on the other end,there’s another extreme of people who are beyond their marriage age. It really isn’t the age you know. It all depends on how much you want to stay married and whether you have decided on options if this doesnt work! It will..it has to and you have to make sure it works. Every day you work for it. I hope married couples dont get separated because of things that doesnt matter. You see,not many people  have the privilege of getting married to the nice ones,so dont blow off your chances.
For some , love is the only thing they have..
its simple…staying married means staying in love 😉
It’s you I like,
It’s not the things you wear.
It’s not the way you do your hair,
But it’s you I like.
The way you are right now
The way down deep inside you
Not the things that hide you
Not your diplomas…
They’re just beside you.
But it’s you I like,
Every part of you,
Your skin, your eyes, your feelings,
Whether old or new.
I hope that you’ll remember
Even when you’re feeling blue,
That it’s you I like,
It’s you yourself, it’s you
It’s you I like!
Happily ever after by Pinkie-Perfect
Posted in close to heart, RoMa Chronicles

A new beginning

 “It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.”

– Alen Cohen

Change, they say, is inevitable. I don’t know about courage, but for really big changes, it sure takes some big time preparation. And by preparation I don’t just mean manic shopping! Today I stand at the crossroads of my life. A place I knew I was going to arrive at, sooner than later. And somehow I wasn’t aware it would also bring with itself a bundle of mixed emotions.

It’s not easy to leave a world that is nothing if not familiar. A fixed amount of money making its way into the bank account every month, a boss whose mood swings I have come to understand and work my way around, a fixed routine of early morning n late evening bus rides and car pooling. Familiar faces everywhere – the bus, the roads, the neighborhood. The same paths that leads to the same places, even the familiar trainer at the gym! I may not have made, or kept even, too many friends here at work, but the last couple of years were all about getting used to change. Trying my hand at cooking, losing loved ones, catching up with friends, letting go of people who have no value for me, learning to live with das once again, where I can easily get away with moodswings, laziness, and downright SLOTH! An office where I knew my stuff, worked myself into things I had known only in books and taken up jobs that I never knew I was good at.

And soon this phase will be over… All this familiarity will change.

New place, new people, and a husband and a household to take care of too! I have never imagined myself get married, be someone’s wife and all that. I always thought I had too much of a wild streak to settle down, be the woman around the house, or even take the trouble of making changes in my life to be with someone else. And now, I am doing just that. And guess what – it doesn’t feel like a compromise. It makes me happy, a tad bit apprehensive and intimidated maybe, but very happy. Probably this comes from all the trust that has firmly made its place in my mind over the last few months. And the fact that the person I will be with after all these changes in my life, is understanding along with so many other nice things 😉 Not predictable at all mind you, but very, very understandable( I think I meant understanding).

I have been asked how I feel about all these changes. Well, I haven’t consciously sat down and analysed my feelings over it. But from whatever thought I have given it, I do know I am not in the least bit sad. Or unsure. Though I am unsure of my abilities as a wife and let’s face it – a daughter in law and sister in law, or sometimes of even finding my footing at a new place, I am not upset. In fact I am ready for change. And all the fun that’s in store for me. Us. 🙂

Today I quit my job of two years. Today I said goodbye to a lot of people. Some that I was happy to say bye to and some that I know I’ll miss. Today I am letting go of my fears of whether I was capable of being an HR professional or not. I am good at it. Today I am proud to say I am great at writing and branding. Today I bid adieu to the endless hours of traveling. Today I vow to be committed to reducing my weight at least till August 30th. Today I promise to spend as much time as I can with Das, my family and friends. Today i am happy. Today is a new beginning!

Tomorrow I am starting on a journey. Kind of a passage before i reach the other side in 77 days!An exile for ten days. No phones. No internet. No friends. Nobody but myself. Here’s to me time!!!!!!

P.S- The sadists dont be too glad! Ro and I are having an amazing journey so far and cannot wait to get married to each other. So if you thought that I was going on exile bcoz I had a tiff with him, screw you! Ro was annoyed at the fact that I wont be available on whats app and skype for these ten days. Which means he cannot go without seeing me even for a day! How sweet 😉 so YES, screw you and your sadism! Get a life, will you! Oh I will have control over all this bullish behaviour when am back after ten days.

See you on the other side 🙂

Posted in close to heart, RoMa Chronicles

And when the day finally arrived

This arranged marriage setup is kinda awkward really and twisted. Its like reverse engineered love. You are made to believe that this is the person you ought to spend the rest of your life with, then you get to know each other and then somewhere along the way, you fall in love.  It sounds twisted and I must say that I was very very apprehensive about the whole thing. And then it happened.

You never really know those special day of your life. The days you think are going to be big ones, they are never as big as you make them out to be in your head. It’s the regular days, the ones that start out normal. Those are the days that end up being the biggest and the special ones. And yesterday was my biggest day so far. I wouldn’t have believed it if someone told me that when I woke up yesterday that it would be my biggest and one of those special days.

Here’s the thing about arranged marriages. You would know exactly when you really fell in love, you would know when you felt that connection being made and you would know the precise moment when you see the sparks fly.  It was beautiful. Perfect. You never really know the special day of your life is your special day, not until it’s happening. You don’t recognize the biggest day of your life, not until you’re right in the middle of it. The day you commit to something or someone. The day you get your heart broken. The day you meet your soul mate. The day you realize there’s not enough time because you wanna live forever. Those are the biggest days. Yesterday was mine. The day I foolishly realized that I was irrevocably and unconditionally in love with the Nair Boy. The day I realized that I cant just stay without him around. The day I understood that I cannot wait to be his. The day my heart told me that I want to grow old with him next to me.Yesterday…..my special day.

“….and one day the two shall become one, to have and to hold. All because they fell in love.”

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Maybe not just another boy

So I wanted to write a series on this and I realised there really weren’t that many. Hehehehe… That said, now there is this name thats going around my house. Phone calls..messages…mails…chats all seem to be about one particular person. Ahem. Das seems to be busy answering calls, hurrying to reply to messages/mails etc. I’ll reserve the name for later :0.

Not that at this stage I have any confirmation. But somewhere maybe there is something in all this. Everything’s been happening quickly. Das’s friend(who is the nair boy’s uncle) called up to say they have sent a message on the matrimony page. Das checks the profile, asks me to check as well. I check, I like. Das takes it to local astroman. Astroman says no issues. Das again takes it to big astroman and he also confirms that this match is made in heaven(Blush is coming). Das calls up Nair boy’s Uncle and passes on info at the same time messaging on the matrimony page. The mad rush starts when they also say that the horoscopes have matched and the nair boy also like me(ooohhhh all pink pink). SO Das passes on mail id and number and I wait. I wait for an entire day and then he mails.So we get mailing and by evening we talk and by next day we ping( What would the world do without whats app).

Right, I cant get myself to write anymore at this point. So ill leave you with this….

Sooooooo there is this guy
but I’m afraid that if I’d say anything about him to you
you’d fall in love with him too.

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Just Another Boy-2

Haaa as I end my second week, my score stands at around 575 hits and about 30 requests/interests. Well, I really don’t know if these numbers are low, average or high but looking at the way this is going, I am kind of losing hope n losing hope fast. Yes I know you’ll be thinking, “Jeez this lady has been on the radar for just over two weeks and she is already losing patience.” I can explain! For almost 5-6 years of my life, I have never needed to look out for anything or anyone for that matter. This is  kind of freaking me out. I mean I have to go through profiles and shortlist them, Then send out messages saying, I/ the family is interested in this profile so please let us know if you are interested. Ugh!

So you see, it really is difficult when you have sooooo many choices and you are kind of deciding on your future by making that one choice. Yes I have complained about not having enough choices before but….come on! This is really weird. Having to choose a “husband” for yourself between so many choice is DIFFICULT!

AAh so here are my prospective knight in lungi’s . Actually, this week is ok compared to last week.

 Guy 1:
Name: SM
Age:31
Location:Boston,USA
Well, this was through my cousin and also up on the site. Interests match and so does the family etc etc. Gotta wait and watch. But, honestly I have certain qualms of getting married to relatives and friends of relatives because if anything happens, god forbid but if anything goes wrong in tat relationship, then none of these families involved can speak to each other or look at each other and that’s unfair.
 
 Guy 2
Name: PG
Age: 30 I think
Location:Scotland
Haa Scotlandwas my initial reaction. Well, I don’t really like going abroad and settling down butScotlandis nice place na?! Hehehe just kidding. So well the only thing that’s troubling me with this guy is that he is thin L and well he is into adventure sports and fitness and he reads self help books. That’s my issue. But he seems like an okay person to talk.

 Guy 3

Name: SSP
Age: 31
Location: UAE/Mavelikkara
He too seems like an okay person. Shares the same interest n all. But you see I have a very irky relationship with mavelikkara. Yes it’s my mother’s home town and also where a lot of people I don’t like, reside. So…. That’s the only problemo.

 Well that’s it for this week. And for those who are wondering why I am writing such posts and ranting about my journey to finding “The Suitable Boy

  1. its to help girls like me who do not know what to choose and how to go about this arrange marriage thingie
  2. its for me to remember the fright/fun/apprehension etc I faced during this time and laugh later on.
  3. its for my …….mere priya pati dev to read and know what I felt about him the first time I saw him or read about him.
  4. and lastly its just for the fun of it!

Untill next time, Oh my Knight in Lungi, Run!!!!